In our younger days, we all went looking for the best partner in life because our parents and our friends always told us, “You deserve the best!” As we grew older and older and unmarried, some of us would have settled for good, not the best. For those who thought they found the best and lost the marriage, does the cycle start all over again?
I found this article (as Steve Jobs would quote it) “insanely great!” It started out with “We All Married the Wrong Person” but ended up telling me so otherwise. Here are some quips to the blog-post by Lori Lowe:
Couples in crisis often reach the point where they decide they are just two poorly matched people. This precedes the decision to leave the relationship and go in search of that “right person.
If we think we know a person well when we marry them, we are temporarily blinded by our love, which tends to minimize or ignore attributes that would make the relationship complicated or downright difficult. No one gets a guarantee of marrying the right person so you should assume you married the wrong person.
People are happier with the choices they make when there are relatively few choices from which to choose. With too many choices, we can become overburdened and regretful and constantly question our decision.
We need to say, ‘This is the person I chose, and I need to find a way to develop a sense of closeness with this person for who he or she really is and not how I fantasize them to be.’”
Read entire article at Marriage Gems
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